Coney Island and Shake Shack, New York, August 11th 2014

Coney Island and Shake Shack, New York, August 11th 2014

I read up about Coney Island and found this website to be so helpful and loved their suggested itineraries to cater for for either food, history or nightlife enthusiasts.  A great planning tool.

We went to Coney Island on the Q train from Times Square.  It is an easy train trip and took us about 50 minutes.  We were told by the ever helpful Anthony from our Hotel Beacon that we could take the D, F, N or  Q train.  Anthony suggested that the N would be the quickest.

At Times Square we took the Q train as it was the first to arrive.  We would take the N train on the return journey in order to see different areas.

It was a great trip as I was looking forward to meeting up with a gorgeous actress friend from Melbourne, Australia.    I had acted together with Christina Walls in the play "Disjointed Story" by Sean Hanson in 2008 and it had a large ensemble of actors.  In fact it was my favourite ensemble experience in 48 years of acting. It was great to share the day with her boyfriend Patrick McLachlan.

It was so good to see my friend after about four years of missing each other by a few days in either Melbourne of New York City.

We had a ball at Coney Island and wandered around and enjoyed the weather, the scenery, the action, the rides and the history of the area.

There is a special connection to Melbourne as we have Luna Park in the seaside suburb, St Kilda.  Luna Park  had its centenary in 2012.  Melbourne's Luna Park has the oldest, working wooden roller coaster in the world called "The Scenic Railway".  This is quite a gentle and mild ride for modern roller coaster enthusiasts and we wanted to ride Coney Island's "Cyclone" to share the connection.

Nathans:

We then went off and had lunch at "Nathans" where we had hot dogs, cheese fries and the huge lemonades.  Fun food and once a year type food for us thankfully.  Reasonably priced for a day out.

Thunderbolt:

Will we become Thunderbolters?

We first went on "Thunderbolt" and we were both like screaming teenagers building up the anticipation and the courage to ride it. We had discussed that building up to going on a ride is part of the bravery-award journey.

After watching the "Thunderbolt" for at least ten times we finally made the decision to ride it as we thought the worst part of the ride appeared to be the initial flat-lay-on-your-back journey up a wall to be flipped over and drop 180 degrees down the other side.

I was counting the clicks each time I watched others ride this "Thunderbolt."  Was it ten, twelve of fourteen clicks?  I don't remember now or then.  As I forgot as soon as we were flipped back in our seats and looking to the heavens.  Count?   Not counting for us!  Just breathing and allowing the blood flow to keep us alive!

The adrenalin is building and the wait for the flip over is to come...."when?...Oh!...Just get it over with......I am going to die.... I am am going to die...  l love you P.J. ....oh shit....when?...Yet another click...not another click?  More adrenalin rushing,....oh shit here we go........." 

Scream to release adrenalin!  My blood is rushing through my body as I type this and recall that moment.  We both screamed and loved it.  Vowel sounds rich and harmonic!  Actors training allows one to release the breath and project animalistic vowels of ferocious quality.

"A flash!  Was that a flash?"

Twists, turns, tumbles, speed, churning stomach, G-Forces, corset-tightening-fashion feelings and  sensations of near death.

More adrenalin gut wrenching vowels and the occasional Tourette-Syndrome repetition of "shit, shit, shit!"

Survival.  The final roll towards the end.  The look to each other that we did it.  We were brave, courageous and fools!

When then had the awkward escape from this corset like carriage.  Then attempting to exit the "Thunderbolt" with some dignity.

The celebratory hug together. We are Thunderbolters!

The walk away with the shaking of the entire body like a tantric orgasm gone wrong as it continues for at least ten minutes. 

The obligatory photo to be purchased to share, honour and record our survival experience.  

This photographic record from that earlier "Flash" is now immortalised for our memory.  If you do not buy the photo then it is just a memory.  Here is a record of achievement.

Now I know what Alain de Botton means about "Still Life" paintings to record the mortality of death.  Riding roller coasters is the physical experiential sensation of the before, during and after imagining what near death is like.

We then went for a walk and had two beers each at another restaurant.  It was great to just sit, chat and catch up on each other's lives.  We had an absolute ball for about two hours just kicking back.

Cyclone

At this time Christina's partner, Patrick was a bit disappointed he did not go onto "Thunderbolt" and now was brave and three of were to go onto "Cyclone" and share the Melbourne historical connection to Melbourne's Luna Park and "The Scenic Railway."

We all thought this was going to be an easy ride and we were in for a shock.

It was faster than the "Thunderbolt"!  It was no mild ride.  A similar trip to the Melbourne Luna Park's "Scenic Railway" but much faster and with corset hugging security devices.

We all felt like we were going to smash our heads on the over head wooden beams.  None of us did.  We survived this too!

This time three of us survived and did the obligatory victory hug.   I had to buy the official photograph as a permanent memento of our time together.  It was good value for such a prized memory.

Journey back:

We caught the N train back and shared the experience of four people having had a wonderful experience together at Coney Island.  Three Australians and one New Zealander having fun as we know how to.

We rested in our comfortable apartment at  Hotel Beacon and then headed out for a late dinner.

We went to the "Shake Shack" as New Yorkers said we had to compare it to other burgers like "IN/Out Burgers"  We would compare it to Bill's hamburgers at North Road Ormond as they are the freshest and tastiest we have had.

The burgers were flavoursome and sadly I added tomato sauce (Ketchup) and this spoiled the flavour.  I loved the crispy bacon.  The fries I thought were too fatty compared to other chips.

The lemonade tasted like one of those packet mixes with water added.  The apple juice drink was very ordinary.

If New Yorkers are queueing for this experience then they should get on the plane and go to Bills Fish and Chips in Ormond.  His burgers are about three times the size and are a very traditional old fashioned burger. Bill's hamburgers are $8.00 and are meal by themselves.

I am glad I tried the Shake Shack and want to try another of their burgers or something else on the menu.

Randall's Island walk, New York August 7th 2014 1.00 -4.15pm

Randall's Island walk, New York August 7th 2014 1.00 -4.15pm

100th St Station is a great hub to do so many activities.

Travel to 110th St and take either the Harlem Walk, the Randall's Island Walk, the El Barrio Walk or the Central Park North Walk.  Or simply go and have a swim at the Swimming Pool as it seems to be quiet in summer.  Such a shame as it is a huge pool for laps or splashing around.

Walk across from 110th St towards the East River.  Take the bridge at about 103rd St across to Randall's Island which is a quiet oasis for solitude, walks and sunbathing.

Maps:

There are so many  "Official Maps" that are wrong as they label Wards Island as incorrectly.  

It is Mill Rock Park that is missing from many New York maps according to the Randall Island website.

Note that it is the lower section of Randall's Island that has the bridge at about 103rd St.  This is called Wards Island Park according to the Randall Island website to see the full island and there are  two major parks.

I rang VanDam maps about and the gentleman has still not returned my phone call.  I will him the benefit of the doubt as he may be ill, on vacation or out of the office.  (Still no returned phone call after five days!)

Great views of Manhattan, Queens, Roosevelt Island, Ward Island and the Freedom Tower are available by walking south east on Wards Island.  Keep walking as you think you see it but that it the mid town skyscrapers.  Take a map with you to see their locations.

Concierge Maps have a map that has not been corrected since our first visit in 2008.  Will they reply to my email and feedback?

Also the MTA Map on all subway trains is wrong as it does not include Mill Rock Park  on their map.


Check out the history of Mill Rock Park as I am finally glad to solve this confusion.  No one in New York has told me the correct name of this island.

Souvenir Shops:

There is an "S & N" store at 2031 3rd Avenue near the corner of 111th St  has great bargains for the budget conscious.  So many people will rush to Century 21 and Marshalls but do not forget about the

"Staples" prices for magnets, maps are usually cheaper than some tourist stands.

As you travel further away from the Tourist Areas check out the local supermarkets or variety shops and see how much cheaper are their range of souvenirs, luggage and other essential items.

Post cards:

Less people write postcards due to the instant nature of Social Media.  That is cool but for some people receiving a post card in the snail mail is still a thrill and means you are taking time out to think of them.

You can usually pick up ten for a dollar postcard and some better quality ones are more expensive.

The really budget conscious you can pick up some FREE advertising post cards at cafes, coffee shops, book shop and restaurants.  They are usually of a more artistic quality and have some funky designs.

Bookshops usually have lovely bookmarks as business cards.

Opportunity:

A lovely opportunity exists for restaurants to market and differentiate themselves with their flat pack Ice Bucket Sleeve.

This Ice Bucket Sleeve is like a a six inch high pocket that lays flat and opens to fit in a standard size wine bottle.

The opportunity is for businesses to have their logo and business name and contact details on these Ice Bucket Sleeves.

The businesses could either:

• give them away as promotional corporate gifts at corporate fairs,
• give them to their customers as a thank you for loyalty; or
• sell them for a nominal fee.

Pedestrian Hints in New York, August 11th 2014

Pedestrian Hints in New York, August 11th 2014

Common sense is not common practise!

The following are some hints for being a pedestrian in New York City;;

• Keep calm

• Relax

• Keep right - as the more people who do this faster the traffic flows.  Imagine you are driving a car in the USA and keep right and give way to the left.

• Look both ways always as the traffic flow may change from two way to one way.  

• The streets can be one way and alternate directions.

• Be savvy and street wise.

• Walk with purpose and confidence.

• Enjoy the sites and be aware of who is around you.

Observe the drivers:

For Australians driving on the right can be a daunting task but you could do it if you use walking as your practise run.

Watch how they drive here and give space for pedestrians at crosswalks.  I believe there are big fines for not giving space at crosswalks and that is why you see a lot of drivers reverse to not cover the crosswalk.  (I wish we had that in Australia)

• Keep right.

• Give way to the left.

• Walk as if you are driving on the road so left turns are wide and right turns are closer to the corner.

Observe the traffic lights at corners:

Take note and observe the traffic lights at corners.  For Australians look down and notice the line marking for the cars to stop.  This line is to allow for the pedestrians to have free walkway.

Think of this line when you are a pedestrian for the following hint that my friends in NYC say I should tell the New York Mayor. 

"Remember This Moment" Or "Respect This Moment!"

A famous author said I would find the way to use this idea and share it.  She loves my idea and encourages me to find a way to use it.  I finally have the courage to share it with more people:

• At the corners I call it R.T.M =  "Respect This Moment!"  Or "Remember This Moment!" by holding back at the corner intersections and not go right to the gutter's edge (unless there is no one there.  

• Do not blocking the corner to allow people to turn the corner.

• By holding back enjoy the meditation of allowing people space.

• Enjoy the satisfaction that is not all about you.

• Relish in the thought that we can all relax and get to our destinations more relaxed and quicker if only we gave space at intersections.

• My friends have seen me do the "Respect This Moment!" Or "Remember This Moment!" and one friend suggested that I post YouTube videos of me in action.  I have made a few short videos but left my cords in Australia.  I will post videos shortly when I return to Australia.

• One friend says it is like "Give them a break!" or like the subway announcement about "Courtesy"

Example in action:

• If you are travelling in a north/south direction and you approach a stop light ahead.

• Hold back where the building ends (or to allow the free square space of the corner of the sidewalk.) 

• Don't block the corner as people will try and go around. 

• Look both ways to see if there is pedestrian traffic walking east/west.

• If no one is walking east/west continue to the gutter and wait for lights to change.

• If there is pedestrian traffic flowing from either the east or west, give them space for those pedestrians who want to to turn north or south.

• Look both ways and watch the grateful faces of people as you give them space.

• Watch their faces as they appreciate how you have freed up the flow of traffic.

• Smile - as a smile is infectious.

If you experience negative feedback:

Respond and say "Remember This Moment" or "Respect This Moment" as "I am trying to give you space to move faster mate!"

• A note of caution that not everyone is caring, considerate and selfless.

• We can all be role models and show courtesy as tourists and as locals.

• Shock reaction from you is inserted here!  "No!?" you ask!

INSERT VIDEO HERE OR LINK TO YOU TUBE HERE!

• Don't push and shove

• Share the footpaths, sidewalks or traffic lanes.

• On trains - don't hold the doors open or lean on the doors.

• Give space to passengers getting off the train.  Step to the side and allow them to get off first.

• As you leave a lift, elevator or doorway do not congregate as it blocks the egress.  For example at the bottom of an escalator or "travelator" or moving walkway -  it can cause serious injuries as people are trying to get off the escalator.

• Learn where is uptown and downtown.

• Identify and locate the north direction 

• Identify and locate  south direction

• Identify and locate  is south direction

• Finally, identify and locate west.

I am sorry if this is patronising but you are on holiday and want to enjoy the immersive experience.

• Understand that there are four corners and study what is:
• North east
• North west 
• South east 
• South west

Stand on an intersection and clock wise work out the four corners as this makes it so useful when using the subway:

If you point to the following corners or directions in a clock wise order it will make it easier:

• North east
• South east  
• South west
• North west

(Insert graphic of street corner here! to show the above example)

Subway hints:

• Plan your trip in advance by studying the maps.
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• Using an electronic map or GPS increases your vulnerabiltiy on the streets.
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• Remember that they drive on the right hand side of the road in the USA. This simple hint will assist  you when you want to enter on a subway entrance:
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• Enter on the right side of the street for either direction. Beware:  Otherwise your Travel Card can time out for about 15 or 20 minutes until you can swipe it again.
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• Failing to plan is planning to fail!

Thank you Erik from Westsider Records at 233 West 72nd St for this hint:

• When travelling the MTA New York subway there is a general rule of thumb to distinguish between a LOCAL and an EXPRESS train.  (Australians would call a LOCAL train a "Stopping All Stations" train.)

• LOCAL trains will be closer to the WALL or  OUTSIDE Tracks

• EXPRESS trains will usually be the inner or middle tracks.

Mobile phone/cell phone usage:

• Do not walk and talk with your cell/mobile phone.

• You may not be covered for personal insurance if you are using your cell phone when walking or crossing the street.  Do check with your insurance company if they encourage you to walk and text while crossing streets etc!  You may be unspleasantly surprised at their exclusions and they can, and, do check your cell phone activity if you make a claim!

• Do not text when walking or driving or going to the toilet.  (Yes I wish I had photos of the guys taking a pee with their cell phone in their hand!  I have heard of about five phones being lost this way!  Enjoy the retrieval of the phone men! Ladies would not use a phone when going to the loo! Surely not!  Oscar Wilde would have a witty remark for that one if they do!)

• Walking and texting increases your levels of vulnerability and distraction.

• Thank a cop for making this city safe.

• Enjoy being caring and considerate and unselfish as New Yorkers as friendly and helpful.

• Respect This Moment!

• Remember This Moment!

My dream:

My dream was for homeless people to write R.T.M like the "ETERNITY" was written in Sydney..  This would provide  people the opportunity to take stock and take note and ponder for a moment.  Sublimely this assisting people to learn to meditate or savour the experience of waiting on a corner.

My dream is for homeless people to write R.T.M on a corners inline with the ends of buildings.  Imagine if every homeless person wrote this on every intersection.  It could make a small difference, no a huge difference in respect.  They would feel as if they were contributing to society too.  I am a dreamer and  ....... Dreams are hopeful actions.  Me sharing this is the first step into turning a dream into an action.

"Remember This Moment" Or "Respect This Moment!"

This is my first draft and it is being sent out to the universe.  It will probably need edits but here goes.....

New York August 9th 2014

New York August 9th 2014

Today we had a relaxing day and caught up with Barb and Dorothy at their street stall.  

On the way we past a Dry Cleaners that had a huge sign stating: "Organic Dry Cleaner".  We both laughed as the only organic dry cleaning we could think of in Australia would be on the clothes line outside with a Hills-hoist.  We do know the difference between regular washing and dry cleaning but thought this was very funny as traditionally outside clothes lines are not used in the USA.

During the afternoon Dorothy wanted to "treat" us to a frozen yoghurt at "Red Mango" at 701 2nd Ave, New York.  Phone (212) 883 7630.   The frozen yoghurt was delicious and we also tried their smoothy which was refreshing and not too heavy.  we also used their toilets which were exceptionally clean.

We helped them pack up their wares. Then went to our favourite Mexican Restaurant in the USA.  It is called BABY BO'S at 627 Second Ave, New York (at 34th St South West corner).  

Love the food and the service at BABY BOS.  The drinks are terrific and the atmosphere is lovely and warm with murals painted on the walls and coloured fairy lights.

The toilets are fun as there is a fun "Do not pee on the floor" visual sign.  I have not seen one of these signs anywhere else.

My partner had a Bud and I had The Green Hornet cocktail, which consisted of Patron Reposado, Midori, Pineapple  juice, Lemon and lime mix.  Strong and full flavour.  I had to have a second.

I had the Steak Vaquero burritos which was skirt steak, black beans, red rice, Monterey Jack and a pickled red onion. Covered with avocado, crema and tomatillo sauce.  This was a huge serve and I enjoyed it.  We both swapped meals for a few mouthfuls.  This size was good to share.

My partner had the El Dorado which was grilled portabellos , spinach,sweet plantains and Monterey Jack.  Covered with red chile sauce, crema and quese cotija.  Served with red rice and red black beans.  I got to try this also and loved its vegetarian full flavour.  This had a lovely texture.

After dinner we went back and relaxed at the hotel.

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Trader Joes for Queueing System, New York Friday August 8th 2014

Trader Joes for Queueing System,New York Friday August 8th 2014 

Today was one of those catch up days when travelling.  Domestics, washing and cleaning etc. It is so important to have one down day per week to recharge your batteries or you may encounter fatigue or domestic arguments with your partner.

We have learned the hard way to ensure one day per week fits this criteria.

So today was a day of relaxing and enjoying the short strolls around to accomplish small but necessary tasks when travelling.

We adore the Beacon Hotel and this is our fifth time here.  It is like home as the staff know us and it is like home but minus many chores.  The staff are so obliging and friendly.

After going into a great record shop the Westsider Records at 233 West 72nd St,  that sells LPS (Long Playing records for those who are too young to know about these black vinyl disks). We chatted with Eric Johnson who provided some incredible  hints.

Hints:

When travelling the MTA New York subway there is a general rule of thumb to distinguish between a LOCAL and an EXPRESS train.  (Australians would call a LOCAL a "Stopping All  Stations" train.)

LOCAL trains will be closer to the WALL or  OUTSIDE Tracks

EXPRESS trains will usually be the inner or middle tracks.

Thank you Erik from Westsider Records at 233 West 72nd St for this hint.

We then changed  Traveller's Cheques (we prefer this old nostalgic method of using international currency) at our local Chase Bank.  The staff always welcome us warmly.

Trader Joes Queueing System:

Costco and other supermarkets around the world take note of the leadership of Trader Joes in providing a fairer way for checking out of a supermarket.  The next in line is next in line.  There are two lines and they have a staff member who directs customers to the next available cashieer.  It is THE FAIREST SYSTEM I have ever seen. 

Trader Joes should make a video of this fairness and the staff  and customers seem happier.  

Costco Melbourne take note this "lining up" or "queueing"system reduces customer fatigue waiting in the wrong queue!

Australians take note that Aldi is Trader Joes  in the USA.

Travelling for first time with someone, New York, August 9th 2014

Travelling for first time with someone, New York, August 9th 2014

I write the following as I have heard of so many friendships breaking up when travelling together.

Life long friendships and evenromantic relationships being  compromised or destroyed due to not establishing some clear guidelines when travelling together.

The following is our list of things that we have discussed in our 35 years together.  Yes and we have had some huge "barnies", rows or spats or arguments when travelling but the following has reduced their severity and frequency.

Background information:

When I was a Learning and Development Consultant at the old Bank Of Melbourne (in the 1980s to 1990s) I did an activity that the other staff used to nickname "The Walk With Raymond."  It is a simple rapport building activity when someone new joined our department.   A simple strategy to get to know your new colleague.  I would go for a walk with them at lunch time and ask about their interests and backgrounds and how they like to work.  I would also try to understand their preferences for working.

Many Senior Managers have said this should be the standard for many people being inducted into a new area and for general working together.

Then came the clincher:  I would ask them "how do they deal with conflict?'  Usually their response would be "I don't have conflicts" or "There won't be conflict between us!'  I would always say  "Yes there will" as I realistically know that people are human.  I was not being aggressive, I was trying to be pro-active and to reduce the likelihood of major conflicts.

After their initial shock, pause, silence and realisation that I was serious,  I would share examples of what I do when stressed or upset.  I did this to show that no one is perfect and we all are not angels.

I would then ask them "what are the signs of you getting stressed? And "How will I know that you are upset ?  "What annoys you?" and "What do you do when you are upset.  For example go quiet or eat more or other behaviours?"  

I would then explain how I dealt with conflict.  Ever since I was about three years old I was always the mediator.

I would emphasise that their information was confidential and it was about building trust with them.  I always offered support and working friendship to ensure quality and maximum growth for the company.  

Generally people really appreciated the time that I took to get to know them and understand their way of working.  I built up a reputation of respect and some people would joke about this activity as it was like a rite of passage.  It also created some jealousies with some people that they did not do this first.

I found it a turning point and built up genuine trust with most people.  

In thirteen and half years I only had two major altercations.  I was lucky as I saw many other staff not deal pro-actively with their relationship building.

I will update these hints as I think of them under the following headings:

Preparing for a trip hints:

Use the example above and adapt it to "How will we travel together?"

What do you like to do?

What are your three priorties for this trip?

What do like to do?

How much time do you like to go shopping, touring, walking, activities, dining, partying etc?

Where to travel to?

You both have to decide where you want to travel to and the amount of time you are there.

Disagreements or discomfort here is a sign it may not work out travelling together.  Some one may monopolise your dreams or ideas.  Be clear about your objectives.

It is a compromise at all times.

Be clear about why you are travelling and what are your objectives:

Fun

Partying

History

Educational

Music tour

Sport

Theatre,

Following in someone's tracks tour eg Hume and Hovell or Ghengis Khan etc

Road trip

Relaxation

Touring

Sight seeing

Musician fan tour eg Bon Jovi concert tour 

Accommodation:

Sleeping arrangements: double beds, queen, king,  twin, separate rooms etc?

Do you want to go to Bed and Breakfast establishments, hotels, motels, apartments, rent a house, share, etc?

Finances:

Establish that everyone can afford to travel and their budget.  Do not borrow money for a holiday as you will be paying it off for ages. I have heard so many stories of regreets in my banking years about this.

Go on a holiday you can afford.  We had to go to Bright or Ballarat for years as we could not afford to go overseas.  We have such lovely memories of these places too.

What happens if someone runs out of money?

Be clear about risk management and contingency plans.

Travel Insurance:  All have to have it.  No questions asked!!

Partying: 

Alcohol, sex,drugs and rock and roll etc

Where, when and how often.

Establish clear boundaries and you will enjoy your parties even more.

Do you allow some one to stay in your accommodation with you for a night or extended stay?

Food and eating: 

Where, when, how, who, what.  Do you cook in?  If so how often?

What sorts of food do you all enjoy?  Willing to try etc.

Planned versus spontaneous time:

Planned or spontaneous:  What is the ratio of planned and spontaneous activities?  How do you decide this?  How do you change plans or to enjoy the spontaneity?

Compromising:

Discuss and make clear rules about discussing issues.  This includes how long to discuss and time out guidelines.  Some people need space and time to digest their feelings.

Time out:

Everyone needs their own space.  So set clear boundaries of "I need to go for a walk" or "I want to read" etc

For each week of travel you need one day to recharge and take it easy.  You cannot be on the go all the time.

Luggage:

Be clear about capacity and carrying your own items in your luggage etc.

How much luggage?  Luggage allowances etc

Laundry and hygiene:

Personal hygeine has caused many arguments.  Fill in your imagination here as you are right "shit happens!"

Set clear goals of what you expect from each other.  For example the towels hung up, or the toilet seat up or down, space for each person's toiletry items etc.  These are the ones that really set off the biggest arguments.

Be clear about each other's needs and wants.

Sex:

So many things happen here.   There are so many fabulous stories people have shared with me about this category.

The following are questions to consider as I could tell you a story about  every one of them.

Who with?

When?

How often?

Sex toys?  Where to be used or to be stored etc

Privacy: You do not need to know their personal information but do raise the issue.  If they masturbate establish clear guidelines about where.  If sharing a room you do not want to walk in on them if the door is unlocked or in the same room etc.  (I can hear you all cringing and shrugging at this but I can tell you some fantastic stories about this.)

Jet lag:

So many travellers are unaware of how jet lagged they are when travelling.  That is why you need time out.  We think it takes about three days to start to get over jet lag when travelling to the USA from Australia.  We acknowledge clear guidelines about sleep patterns and to talk to each other about how you are feeling.

Even with jet lag medications and hints the main one is to talk to each other and have time out to adjust.

Get sunshine or light to assist you.

You know your own body and respect that about your travelling companion.  It is their body and their reactions and people can get very stressed when jet lagged and make irrational decisions.

Many people when really stressed from jet lag just want to go home.  It happens frequently so by talking through many of these ideas in advance you will have a more memorable trip.

Perfect trip:

No trip is perfect.  Do not set your expectations so high to disappoint yourself.

We have learned to reduce our planned activities and enjoy the spontaneous activities more. For example, in New York there is so much to do so you need this unscheduled time to enjoy these moments.

Set a post trip review date:

Set a time to review the trip within a specific date or a time frame.  Do not let it go further than two weeks or the likelihood of a post trip review will lessen.  The post trip review is to share the fun times and review what worked well and what did not work so well.  It is a way to make sure that you will travel again later and even more succesfully.

Roles for preparing to travel:

Who will do what to prepare for this trip?

Who willl organise the itinerary, the bookings, the accomodation, the travel insurance etc

Be clear about the roles as again this can cause friction.

Remember you can always pull out of a trip if you sense dread.  I assure you the dread will materialise from the stories I have heard.

Establish the clear guidleines of still gong on the trip or not going etc.  What will change the plans?  Do not use excuses - be clear about what would make the trip a "No go!"

Roles when travelling:

I am such a historical buff and want to appreciate things and photograph the moment that it can frustrate my partner.  But we undersatnd our roles and talk about it.  We both enjoy our roles and have fun accordingly.

My partner and myself have a list of roles.  Some people think this is unbalanced and it appears so, but it is our in-joke.

My friend Lorraine was in tears when I wrote my list the first time.  Thanks Lorraine for your encouragement.

Important:  Prior to booking any travel arrangements the rules for travel need to be clearly established.

If you cannot agree on ALL of the above, DO NOT TRAVEL together.  I can give you many examples of disasters.  I am serious you need to work out all of the above to really enjoy the trip.

Traveling together hints:

Copy the above here with variations on the theme.

Keep communicating but know when to shut up and give the other person a break.

Ensure that you set a time to review the trip and stick to it.  You want the magic of the trip to linger.

Post trip evaluation:

Set a time to review the trip even if it was a disaster as it may clear the air.

Have a meal together, or a drink.  Have a photo night, or the old fashioned slide night, or iPAD,  Power Point presentation.  

But do something special together.

Enjoy your time together and the memories.

Ask each other:

What went well generally?

What went well and be specific?

What could have been done differently or better?  And why?  Be specific about what you would prefer next time.

If your trip was a disaster repeat the above process ten times until you both learn to communicate, share and compromise.

Happy Travels.

United Nations and Tudor City, New York, Wednesday August 6th 2014

United Nations and Tudor City, New York, Wednesday August 6th  2014

Wlked along 50th St to the East River and via St Bartholomew's Church.  Gorgeous vaulted ceilings and stained glass window.

No crowds in this area and easy to walk.  Then to the United Nations and to Tudor City.  You get fantastic views of the United Nations from Tudor City and we are surprised that more tourists do not go there.

We then walked via 41st St to Grand Central for a wee stop.  Then walked to Times Square to get our train back to 72nd St.  I wish the average New Yorker could tell me the exact demarcation of Duffy Square and Times Square.  I think Duffy Square has been swallowed up into Times Square.  But it is triangle bordered by 45th and 47th Streets and Broadway and 7th Avenue.

We discussed about the lemmings mentality of many tourists who are probably only here for three to five days.  That is not enough.  Do immersion travel and do thing well.  Study the history and really engage and enjoy New York  City!

Crown Lager should be readily available in New York.  This is a huge missed opportunity in New York by Carlton and United Brewery

Still shocked that it is so difficult to get an A4 size laminated map of Central Park.

Hey guys there is a missed opportunity here.

Opportunities and 40th Anniversary in New York, August 7th 2014

Opportunities and 40th Anniversary in New York, August 7th 2014

The following are examples of opportunities in New York:

Crown Lager is not available in any bar or hotel or restuarant that we have been to.  It is such a good beer and should be available here.  While there is a Australian wine "Yellow Tail" that is much more expensive in Australia than it is here.  A great wine too. 

"Sardis" need to have a postcard or a map similar to the "Hollywood Walk Of Fame."  This would allow patrons to locate the various stars.

The best maps in New York include those published by vanDam.   The other maps are the Tribute Edition and the Concierge maps as they have an enlarged version of the lower downtown/financial district.  The Tribute Edition is available free from Federal Hall in Wall St.

Federal Hall  have toilets down stairs and do not miss the printing press on display from the famous trial of John Peter Zenger who was succesfully defended by Andrew Hamilton in about 1735. This printing press to me represents "Freedom of Speech" and truth as a defence in a libel accusation.

There is not a decent map of Central Park available for New York's Central Park.   I have a few versions but a fold up laminated one similar to the other A4 size would be perfect.  Having the north and south ends of the park on either side of the park, or having a general version on one side and a detailed version on the other.  I will contact vanDam maps with my suggestion.

Today is also the 40th anniversary of Phillipe Petit walking for 45 minutes on a high wire between the Twin Towers.  A special day.   If you have not seen the documentary "Man On A Wire" then do so to be spellbound at Petit's determination. 

9/11 Memorial New York City Monday August 4th 2014

9/11 Memorial, New York City Monday August 4th 2014

Today we walked from Wall St along Liberty St towards the 9/11 Memorial Park.  We had been around this area on every trip since 2008 and have chosen not to go and see it until the shell of the Freedom Tower was completed.

So today was a memorable day as we will never forget that morning in Melbourne.  I was grateful that I went to bed early on the Melbourne September 11th.  To wake up on our September 12th morning day was so sad and still brings me to tears.

When my partner screamed when he turned on the tv.  I shouted as I had no idea of the situation.   I cried and cried as I drove all the way up Burke Road to Heidleberg for a training session that was to run for three days.  The traffic was so slow that day.

with a wonderful group of people at Hagermeyer.  To share that memorable day with them is etched in my memory.  I will never forget their faces as I was trying to facilitate a leadership program.  One of the most powerful training sessions I have ever run.  

It was wonderfully meditative to reflect upon each of the names that I could see.  I, like many had to touch their names as if they had touched our hearts.  My partner commented that the metal was not hot in the summer sunshine beating down on the metal.  I think I saw on a documentary that this design was intentional to juxtapose the heat of the day.

Tears rolled down my face as I quietly tried to reflect and wander around.  I was a bit disappointed that some tourist use it like a bucket list of "Must do" NYC destinations.  Though being through too many deaths I understand that there is no way to grieve.  It is personal.  I just had to step back inside myself and repeat that to myself.

We will go to the 9/11 Museum on another day as it deserves our full attention and a break from seeing the memorial.  We need to savour the richness of life that NYC has grown out of this tragedy.

We went to "Brooks Brothers" on Liberty Street and were served by very accommodating staff.  Mark provided great service and the clothes suit our colouring as they have Spring tones according to the Carol Jackson "Colour For Men" system.

What is amazing is that on the second floor of "Brooks Brothers" is the photographic display of the impact of 9/11 and the new store.  There is a very spooky photograph with what looks like a body but is a mannequin laying on the floor.  In the photograph next to this is the new store version and what appears to be a ghost.

I believe what is now the main lobby to the building is where the sports department for Brooks Brothers was located.  This is where they stored bodies like a morgue.  It was very special and an honour to visit and pay our respects.  Tears well in my eyes as I try to type this as the emotion is still so raw.  I try not to suppress my emotions as I do not think that is healthy.  Empathy is what the world needs.

Each year we come here you can see areas being renewed.  It is creating a fresher spirit.  We have noticed less scaffolding this year is as if the chains or cages are allowing everyone to savour New York's vitality again.

Thank you New York for your renewal.  

Chicago and The Shrine Temple July 29th 2014

Chicago and The Shrine Temple July 29th 2014

We are having an amazing time in Chicago and now NYC.

Caught up with Antar and Chris in NYC as they are on tour with Miley Cyrus.  The timing was great to see them here and we will also see them in LA. Sadly we could not see the concert as we had tickets for "Motown" which was ok.

Today is the NYC Triathlon and Paul saw them running for the finish.  We walked yesterday for about three hours and saw the Swimming Entry Point, Swimming Exit Point and the Bike Pick Up locations with all of the Triathlon Marshals preparing for today.  It is a very slick and professional event.  So impressed at the project management in action.

We walked to Grant's Tomb (our fourth time) and St John Divine Cathedral (our fourth time) and meditated there.  It is so peaceful.  Then we got a bus back as the train track was being serviced.  This was our first official bus ride and is a great service.

I bought my sister and niece a really useful gift.  They are covers for three different size paper back novels.  A new idea and I bought them at the book store "After-words" in Chicago.

Chicago for ten days was fantastic.  We did 20 (6- 8 hour walks) and 22 train trips for $33 and saw two good shows.  It is a very modern and clean city.  The public transport there is even better than NYC!

Chicago has wide streets and many are one way to allow greater flow of traffic. The shopping is fantastic, not that we did much.  Walking past the shops was incredible.

There are so many quality restaurants and the choices are hard.

I went to what used to be "The Shrine Temple" which is opposite "Pizzeria Due".  Both Antar and Ree had separately suggested going to both.  Thankfully they are across the road from each other.  Ree and Andre, and Antar's family had worked at "The Shrine Temple" which is now a Bloomingdales store.  Antar and Ree had both told me about their times working the circus there and the history.

I went past "The Shrine Temple"/Bloomingdales about four times and finally went inside by myself.  I spoke to a Geraldo in the kitchenware department who was excited that I knew about some of the history and he told me to go upstairs to see the domed ceiling and the photos.  So I did.

Upstairs I was taking photos and I had asked permission to do so.  Two senior executive smartly dressed gentlemen asked if I needed anything.  I told them about Ree and Antar.  They were interested and at the time I thought they were just showing courtesy.  They directed me in the direction of the photos.

I accidentally went behind the photo display and a lady asked me if she could help.  She pointed to where I had just walked behind the photos, only to have the younger executive come after me.  He seemed to be beside himself!

His name was Joshua and was responsible for Formacollective.com and was so excited that I had connections and contacts about the history of "The Shrine Temple."  Joshua said he would send out people to Las Vegas to interview and film Ree and Andre and document their stories and their life at "The Shrine Temple."  He told me about the project and I said I would contact Ree and Antar and ask them if they were interested.

I finally got to see the photos and was beside myself as I thought that I recognised some of the photos that Antar's parents, Antar Senior and Beverly had shown us in 2012.  The Fez hats were their signature costume identity.

I called Ree and she has just had an operation on her foot.  She cannot walk for a month, and so us not going to Las Vegas worked out in a timely fashion.

At first Ree thought she had nothing to offer about the history but I knew that Joshua wanted their stories of the five shows a day and what it was like to live at "The Shrine Temple" for six weeks at a time for four years.

Joshua also loved the way Ree and Andre met and their life together.  Ree realised her life was interesting and that she knew more about "The Shrine Temple" than she gave herself credit for.  Ree gave me permission to give Joshua her details. Ree said she would makes notes in preparation.  We both laughed as it will give her something to do while she is not  allowed to move around for a month.  Note that Suzie her daughter would beg Ree to tell her the stories of her time at "The Shrine Temple."  It feels so good to share their history by them sharing their stories with me.

Antar also worked there from a young child and for much longer than Ree and Andre.  Their family worked their in the 19060s to the 1980s. He too gave permission to give details to Joshua.  I gave Antar one of the many cards that Joshua had given me.

Well Joshua replied and will be in contact with Ree and Andre and will send crew to interview them etc.  He will do the same with Antar's family too.  Joshua is going to keep me informed also.

It felt incredible to be the conduit to this potential project.  Jack Ruffin my mentor at Bank Of Melbourne said that was one of my greatest attributes as a Project Manager was creating the networks for other people to create the project and other potential projects.

Saw "Aladdin" last night based on the Disney cartoon.  So funny.  Incredibly magical special effects and illusions.  A real Las Vegas show.

il Vagabondo New York Sunday August 3rd 2014

il Vagabondo New York Sunday August 3rd 2014

We walked via 59th St along the start of Central Park past the Plaza Suite Hotel (which is now only residential) to go to il Vagabondo Restaurant.

We walked past where Edie Bouvier Beal grew up.  Think of "Grey Gardens"

The il Vagabondo Restaurant is near the Roosevelt Island Overhead Cable tram that has spectacular views of New York both night and day.  Totally recommend this as a day tour and to walk around the island.  

We had the following delicious meal:

We both had a lovely glass of Moscato champagne at $10 a glass.  A lovely way to treat yourself to a special occasion.  We shared a bottle of Ca'Donini Chardonnay at $36 a bottle and a lovely drop that refreshed while we enjoyed our meal.  Note we enjoy wines and are not wine connoisseurs.  It either is drinkable or it is not!

My partner enjoyed the distinct flavours in his Tomato and Mozarella Appetiser while my Minestrone Soup had a rich flavour without being overbearing.  The vegetables were chunky, bite sized and not overcooked.  The texture of the soup was lovely and balanced as some can be too thick and heavy.

My partner had the special Lasagna at $21.50 and loved it as it did not have too much garlic flavour.  My Veal Parmigiana was tender and a generous size, with a side of Penne and meat sauce.

The Bocce Ball dessert is the speciality dessert and worth sharing.

The restaurant houses the only indoor Bocce Court in a New York Restaurant.  After your meal, enjoy a game of Bocce and it is a great way to meet other people from around the world, and have a fun night out.

Note that you may not play Bocce during a meal.  They welcome you to play after a meal.  There are rules on the court and it is a very fun and social game.

A real gem of Italian Culture and superb service.

We walked past an interesting sex shop as it was not your seedy looking shop.  "The Pleasure Chest" is  very slick and clean and professional shop front that you could see inside to see their wares!  We could not resist as it seemed to be so well laid out.  (Layed out!  Bad joke!)

Heavens the range tickles your fantasy and is great that sex is not considered a sordid dirty aspect of life.  I admire the entrepreneurs for having such a stylish range of items.  Also the prices are so reasonable comparred to Australia.  Stock up on supplies.  Thinking of which I did not see any stocks!  Though I did see other restraints.  So use some restraint with your purchases!  Or blow your budget!

Walked back to the hotel through the lower well lit parts of Central Park and rang my mother and sister.

Why call your bank with travel plans? August 3rd 2014 5.20pm

Why call your bank with travel plans?  August 3rd 2014 5.20pm

Why even bother calling your bank with your travel plans when they stop your card?  I am livid as this is the second time this has happened.  Even more livid as I have documented and also rang my bank to tell them the specific cities I would be visiting.

I took the time and courtesy to be explicit to notify my bank about the following:

The specific hotels with addresses I would be staying.  The specific book stores I would buy from.

The specific items I would buy on the internet and have delivered to the hotel.

The specific tickets I would buy for the shows I would attend.

They then rejected my card as one of the above transactions was done here while in New York!  It is a company that I have used on two previous occasions with larger financial transaction.

I do appreciate the security aspect.  I am cool with that.

What i am really livid about is the three incompetant staff who would not listen to me to transfer the call to the appropriate card department to resolve the issue.

What I am furious about is that this has cost me two hours and ten minutes to resolve.   

It took the last customer service operator, Andrew to resolve the issue in about three minutes.

My question is:  Why cannot the staff be trained to listen to customers?  Why do they not know to transfer the call?

It is only when you have an experienced person that they can resolve these issues.  Even when you ask them to speak to their supervisor they insist they know what they are dong.

Well. ANZ they do not!

Cellular-Sexuals: August 3rd 2014 New York

Cellular-Sexuals:  August 3rd 2014 New York

August 3 2014 1.25pm  Cellular-sexuals!

My social comment for the day:

I am so over these people fingering and making public displays of supposed affection to their mobile/cell phones.  As Bridie Murphy would say "I am over my tinia!".  He knew what life was about and enjoyed people's company and the moment rather than the self indulgent and public displays of "Mobile phone separation anxiety".  I love Bridie's name for it!  Tinia is contagious too.

I now call them "Cellular-sexuals" as they cannot stop caressing, preening and tapping their phones.  Sadly the posture of people is changing like "gorillas" as they hunch over these devices and their thumbs are getting the most exercise at gynasiums. We are witnessing evolution of the human species, at, I consider, the fastest pace in history.

Note: a Cellular-sexual is not necessarily someone who does "sexting."

Chicago First and last impressions: July 20th -30th 2014

Chicago First and last impressions:  July 20th -30th 2014

This is a draft version and more details will be completed.

First impressions:

Our first impression to Chicago airport (O'Hare) was it is so clean and organised.

Our taxi driver was the worst we have had in the world!  People said we should report him.  Sadly we did not get his number as his taxi was dirty, old and smelly.  He barely assisted with the luggage and asked for my help.  I assisted but he was just plain lazy.  The only part of service was he asked if the A/C was ok.  We had been travelling for about 27 hours and were tired and could not understand his accent.  He translated and said air conditioner.  You call a wide tube from central heating unit an air conditioner! We were fine and did not want to talk to him.  We just wanted to get to the hotel as quickly and safely as possible. If we have travelled in Bali, Thailand and other nations with mad drivers - we had now met the Hannibal Lector of them all!  He swerved and jolted through traffic at ridiculous pace for such heavy traffic. 

Now this guy was angry and  on for a fight.  He turned the radio up very loud to a political station with ranting and the occasional english translation.  We assertively chose to not bite at his bid to stir us up.  We could have asked for him to turn it off but giving him only a $5.00 tip gave him the message.  No tip would have given a bigger message but it was time to just be rid of him for ever.  Good bye and go find some inner peace mate!

Final Impressions:

We cannot express our gratitude to  Hampton Inn and Suites staff enough.  The rooms are large and very comfortable and situated in a great neighbourhood for easy access to banks, stations, buses, supermarkets and restaurants

 Huge compliments to Damien, John and Nicole at the front desk of the Hampton Inn and Suites. 

Also in the Breakfast area huge compliments to the staff: Alex, Ralph, Stephanie and others.  Forgive me as I did not have a pen to write down all of your names.  You worked as well oiled machine and did not get fazed by some very demanding and rude people.  You are so welcoming and so friendly.  What a shame more people do not thank you or give you a smile.  You are not their slaves.  I was so impressed with how you carried on your duties in such a consistent manner for ten days.  Your manners and service is much appreciated and you made us feel like we were in your home.

Thank you to Chicago for providing an incredibly safe experience with the most wonderful public transport system CTA and PACE.  

The air is so fresh and the space is so Australian as you do not feel hemmed in.  The streets are wide and orderly.  The architecture is magical and the history is superb.

Immersion travel experience:

Do your research and read about the history of Chicago and see the PBS 4 part video "City of the Century" .  You will get so much out of this city.

It is incredible to be able to talk to someone about "The Shrine Temple" (now Bloomingdales opposite  Pizzeria Due).

The "Metrowalk Z" (insert TM logo here) Walking Book is the best in the world that I have ever used.  I used it in conjunction with my Eye Witness Guide which is visually easy to follow and uses the same colour coding system with every one of their travel publication.  The only thing that it needs is a to really show how Walk 8 the Gold Coast Tour and Walk 9 the Old Town Tour can be combined quite easily if you get off at North/Clydebourne station and walk past Steppenwolf and see the Ranch Triangle neighbourhood as well.

Make sure that you do anything to do with architecture:  Take the time to go out to Oak Park and see at least 35 brilliantly historic homes.  Especially the Frank Lloyd Wright homes.

The other essential thing to do is the Architectural Cruise.  It is one of the best cruise I have ever done and the tour guide was brilliant. 

My quote for this city:

CHICAGO BREATHS!